Dumbfounded

*How do you judge someone? By their appearances? Personality? Is it wise to judge someone whom you haven't met before and draw a conclusion on that person purely based on your own assumptions or words of others? Is it fair for that person? Sometimes I feel like I'm being judge that way and I feel it is unfair to me to be judged that way and draw conclusion on me based on others' words. Wanna draw a conclusion on me, come see me yourself. Don't listen to rumors and then gossip. That is not the way!! I have feelings too you know. Don't judge me like that just because I don't hang out much with you guys. I want to!! I really want to!! But first, understand my situation as to why I can't go in the first place!! Don't just say I'm all cocky and don't want to hang out with you guys!! I do!! Argh!!! I really do!!! And then out of a sudden you are all mad at me. What did I do in the first place? I don't think I deserve all these just because I was not there at gatherings. Dad told Jin and I once, that if anyone treats you that way, they don't deserve your friendship. Friends are suppose to be understanding and stand up for each other. Not to back stab. Friends should be there to listen, to lend a shoulder to cry on, and not to go around adding more "salt" to the already "salty" situation. Make new friends, leave those "friends". There are many fishes in the sea, as what dad says. So, am I going to apply that principle? Personally, I wouldn't. Only because I love all my friends. No matter what they have done to me. I will forgive them eventually. But dad says they will only take further advantage of you. In which, I agree. Out of the many personality tests I have taken, ALL says I am too kind in nature. As what the Malays say; "lembut hati". And with that personality that I have, I am easily taken advantage of. But I am a person who would help a friend whenever I can. I feel rather at fault if I have the ability to help but I don't. And I am fine with helping them. I don't consider myself as being taken advantage of. What I don't like is people going around passing rumors about things that I did not do or say. And then other people will look upon me as a culprit. I hate the feeling. I hate THAT feeling!! So please stop it!!*